Sometimes our children may exhibit near perfect behavior, while at other times their actions may be less than ideal. Regardless of their conduct, who they choose as friends, where they spend the majority of their time, or how protective we are as parents, YOUR CHILD WILL FACE OPPOSITION from peers.
KEYS TO PREPARING YOUR CHILD FOR OPPOSITION
1) Talk with your child on the topic BEFORE a “crisis” occurs. Preparation provides your child the opportunity to effectively deal with adversity and quickly move on.
2) While discussing this topic with your child, don’t make it dramatic or give extreme examples. Have a calm, matter-of-fact demeanor as you discuss the topic. Show only facial expressions and body language that are positive and reassuring.
3) Assure your child that EVERYONE faces some form of opposition from time to time, including YOU. This knowlege will allow your child to know that they are not alone, which is comforting to them. Sadly, opposition is commonplace in our world and there’s little need to try to hide it from your kids. It’s better that your child be conscious of this as opposed to believing that it’s their own fault(Is something wrong with me?) each time that adversity occurs.
4) Instruct your child to avoid a strong reaction towards those showing oppposition. A strong reaction is often what the “opposing peer” desires. Teach your child assertiveness, not agressive or passive behaviors, and to use as few words as necessary when facing adverse circumstances. Instruct your child to then “leave the scene”.
5) Have your child memorize Romans 8:31. It states, “If God is for us, who can be against us?” Helping your child to understand that God is with them at all times(especially during conflict) can give them strength during difficult moments. Have your child occasionally repeat the verse to you over the next few weeks.
Chapter Two in my book, Don’t Forget Your Shield, is entitled, “Dealing With Opposition”. The chapter provides a short story for kids that focuses on properly handling opposition that is inevitable in everyday life. Chapter Two concludes with instruction and suggestions on improving one’s ability to handle opposition. Equip your child today!